Relationships are one of the most important aspects of our lives. They can impact our health, happiness and overall satisfaction with life. The misconception that therapy is only for serious relationships in trouble is simply incorrect. Therapy is appropriate for anyone at any stage of a relationship who might be wondering: why isn’t this person making plans with me, why are they only interested in the beginning, what am I doing wrong? Dating and relationship focused therapy teaches healthy communication skills to better address and resolve interpersonal conflict. Whether you seek counseling for a specific problem or to improve an existing relationship through communication and conflict resolution, counseling can be a useful tool.
Specifically in big cities like New York, creating steady momentum in dating can be especially anxiety provoking. The conveniences of technology like texting and dating apps make meeting new people so easy it can be hard to compel new relationships formed online into something meaningful in the real-world. Digital communication has made dating accessible for busy professionals, but it’s also created a compulsive atmosphere where the next date is just around the corner. These days it’s not uncommon to find yourself in a casual romantic relationship wondering why it’s not moving to the next phase or feeling baffled when someone’s words and actions don’t line up. Relationship therapy is for any person who seeks getting past some of today’s common hurdles like getting stuck in text conversations or the inability to stick to a plan.
During dating and relationship focused therapy, emotional intelligence and interpersonal effectiveness skills are a focus. Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions as well as those of others. This may include sensing when someone is not being honest or has ulterior motives. It also involves identifying how you’re feeling in order to make decisions based on what you need and whether or not your boundaries have been crossed. Interpersonal effectiveness skills address the skills needed to engage in relationships, balance priorities versus demands, balance the ‘wants’ and ‘shoulds’ and build a sense of self-respect. Together these skills will help you learn how to anticipate and understand other people’s behavior so that you can insightfully gauge and navigate developing romantic relationships.