Parenting can simultaneously be a daunting and beautiful experience. That’s why getting the right support at the right time can be invaluable. The Resilience Lab’s approach to parenting support is focused on helping you and your partner understand your natural parenting skills. We often see individuals with a wonderful ability to parent, but when their skills are mixed in a partnership they can create challenges for the child. Finding a successful balance between different parenting style that works for the family is the focus of our work in this type of therapy.
If you have one parent who frequently disciplines a child and another who challenges that authority, especially in front of the child, it can create favoritism and unhealthy relationships. Another instance of differing parenting skills might be when one parent is very involved in a child’s educational life and another sits back and let things unwind as they come. The child may develop an unclear understanding of what’s expected of them and what habits are healthy. Incompatible parenting styles can be painful for a marriage and ineffective for raising a child.
Our approach for parenting therapy is rooted in uncovering each person’s natural skill set. In session, parents without their child or children will join a therapist for a set number of appointments. If ongoing support is preferred, we can create a recurring schedule. To meet the needs of all parents, we also offer group sessions in addition to our private appointments. During private appointments, a therapist will work with you to understand one another’s approach to parenting. From there, we’ll explore what it means when two approaches are used. We find it’s useful in session to spend time evaluating what’s not working and why so when new approaches are shared, they’re received with mutual respect, understanding and agreement.
It can be confusing when a child acts out or painful when they exhibit clear favoritism. In these scenarios, it’s important to remember it’s not personal even when it feels extremely so. Every child is unique and responds to different parenting styles in different ways. They aren’t reacting to you. They’re reacting to the parenting style. In therapy, we’ll assess what parenting skills and deficits exist. And with that, we’ll begin training and implementing new and healthy approaches.